Don’t Judge Me But… I Cheated (Or Got Cheated On)
Let’s go ahead and normalize something real quick: cheating happens way more than most folks want to admit. And nah, I’m not saying it’s okay—but I am saying we need to stop acting like it’s only a “trash man” or “insecure woman” problem. Cheating has layers. It has history. And a whole lotta people are in the cycle and don’t even realize it.
Some of us have cheated.
Some of us have been cheated on.
Some of us have stayed.
Some of us have sworn we’d never be that person—until we were.
So why do people cheat?
It ain’t just about sex. Sometimes it’s about ego. Sometimes it’s about power. Sometimes, it’s the lazy way out of a relationship that should’ve ended months ago. Other times? It’s because someone felt unseen, unheard, or unimportant—and instead of having a hard conversation, they made a dumb decision.
Let’s break down a few hard truths:
Good people cheat. Yup. Even the ones who pray, pay bills, and post “I love my girl” every Wednesday.
Cheating doesn’t always mean you weren’t loved. It might just mean someone didn’t know how to love you right.
If you stay, you ain’t weak. You’re human. And if you leave? That doesn’t mean you gave up too soon. That’s just your boundary talking.
But here’s the kicker—
Cheating forces everybody to look in the mirror. Whether you were the one who did it or the one who got hit with it, it’s a wake-up call. Either you realize what you’ve been settling for, or you realize who you’ve been pretending to be.
So what now?
Ask yourself this:
What did this teach me about myself?
Am I healing or just hiding?
What do I need to feel safe in love again?
Whether you stayed, left, forgave, or ghosted—this is your story to own. Just make sure you don’t let the pain of betrayal turn you cold. Let it turn you aware. Let it turn you intentional. Let it turn you better.
Because let’s be real: it’s not the cheating that defines us. It’s how we show up after.
Drop a comment or hit reply and tell me—have you ever cheated or been cheated on? What did that experience teach you about love (or yourself)?